How To Mutually Masturbate Without Feeling Awkward

How To Try Mutual Masturbation Without Feeling Awkward

 It is safe to say that the majority of us masturbate, including you and your partner.  While this is most often something we do in private, masturbating with your partner can not only be really hot, but it can also deepen the emotional connection between you and your partner.  While there are different ways to mutually masturbate, it is simply having someone else join you in your solo session.  This can be both of you masturbating at the same time, or it could be just watching the other person get themselves off.  This can be great for when you are feeling in the mood but are too tired to get it on the old-fashioned way.  For many, pleasuring yourself in front of someone can be quite intimidating and overwhelming as you are vulnerable to the other person.  However, once you get past the fear of judgment,  you can feel sexually empowered not just with mutual masturbation, but with your overall sex life.  You will not only feel more connected with your sexual partner, but you will also be more connected with yourself and have a deeper understanding of your own sexuality. 

 Why try mutual masturbation anyways?

 Masturbating is an amazing stress reliever and a great way to explore your own sexuality.  However, having your partner join in can really open you both up to a new world of pleasure.  When you masturbate in front of someone it leaves you in a vulnerable state and this will lead to a deeper level of intimacy.  It also provides the opportunity for you and your partner to learn more about what strokes, touches, and spots get you going the most.  When you are able to see each other in the most intimate way, you connect on a much deeper level emotionally. 

 Ok so you are excited to masturbate with your partner, now how do you talk about it?

As with most things between you and a partner, it is always best to have a conversation first.  Sex is more of a mental and emotional connection than it is a physical one.  This is why it is so important to have an open line of communication when it comes to sex.  As I mentioned earlier, touching yourself in front of your partner can be scary and overwhelming, but if you can have a conversation about it beforehand, you are much more likely to feel comfortable and relaxed when the time comes.  Often having a conversation about one sexual topic leads to conversations about other things related to sex as well.  Instead of just jumping right into talking about a solo show, try priming your minds for it by playing a sex game, watching porn, or even virtual kink.  While it is important to get the conversation started, what you say is even more important.  This is a good time to open up to your partner and let it all out.  Talk about what turns you on, what you would like to see your partner do, and what they want to see you do.  Try to be as open and honest as you can so that you don’t hide any feelings.  Remember, mutual masturbation is a great way to feel sexually empowered and overcome fears you may have been holding on to.  If you can not be fully honest with your partner then you will still feel these negative feelings and you will miss out on what could be an amazing experience and deeper emotional connection.  There is no one size fits all way of talking about sex with a partner, as every person and every couple is unique.  Just be sure to focus on your partners’ needs, rather than just your own.  As with all aspects of partner sex, there is great pleasure in giving pleasure, just as there is great pleasure in knowing what turns your partner on.  And don’t just have a conversation prior to the fun, be sure to openly communicate during and after.  Telling your partner how much it turns you on to watch them in complete ecstasy, can skyrocket the experience for both of you.  For a more in-depth discussion, check out our article about how to talk about sex with your partner here.

 Open yourself to experimenting

 When you are alone and masturbate you may find you keep things simple and stick to the basics, but when you put on a show for your partner you might want to try some new things.  This is a great time to experiment with all the possibilities that can give you sexual pleasure.  Maybe it’s some anal play, deep eye contact, teasing, or different positions.  When you masturbate for your partner you are more prone to try new areas you haven’t explored before in an effort to turn them on more.  In doing so you might very well discover new things you never thought you would like.

 Most definitely include sex toys

 Using sex toys for solo play can dramatically increase pleasure and make your orgasms stronger than you have ever felt before.  When you introduce them to your mutual masturbation, the possibilities are endless.  Watching your partner use a toy on themselves and seeing the immense pleasure they are experiencing can be incredibly hot.  Today there are literally thousands of sex toy products on the market and many are unique and high-tech.  From rabbit vibes to male strokers and even app-controlled vibes, there are lots of toys to get creative with.  Try to stick with good quality, body-safe toys from stores like Lust Avenue.  Learn more by checking out our article on sex toys for couples and how to introduce them into your relationship.

 In the end, do what feels right for you

 Pleasuring yourself is all about you, while mutual masturbation is still about you but also about your partner.  It is a way to show a partner whom you trust, something you have previously kept under lock and key.  It is a way to build more trust, to learn more about yourself and more about your partner.  Mutual masturbation can open up your sex life to whole new levels and can awaken a sexual desire you may not have even known you had.  When you know full well that you and your partner both get off alone, why not give it a try together?  A world of new pleasure awaits.